Where Can I Get A Sensual Massage?

Good Communication

For Sensual Massages, there are actually several distinct times when good communication is critically important including:

• When You First Contact The Provider: Depending on the type of provider you choose… your first contact with the provide may be either by phone, email, text or just by walking through the front door of a retail space. How you are communicated with can tell you a lot about the provider.

  1. Speaking Your Language: It is really important that they can effectively speak your language. It is kind of difficult for you to know what you are getting yourself into if you can’t understand them. It is also difficult for them to know what you really want if they can’t understand you. Secondly, the method of communication also says a lot about the provider.

  2. Method Of Communication: The method they use to communicate with you also says something about the individual:

     1. Phone: Unless you are contacting a walk-in massage parlor, providers probably won’t talk to you over the phone (and perhaps not even provider a phone number at all). The reason for this is because they don’t want the general public to have their phone number (which may be their personal cell number). In addition, providers don’t want their patrons to be calling them randomly just to chat, flirt or just be annoying in general. Let’s face it… not all clients are respectful and professional themselves. So, providers have plenty of reasons not to give out their phone numbers.

     2. Email: Some providers prefer to use email because it is the most secure form of communication. Some providers will even use encrypted email providers (such as ProtonMail) as an added layer of security. Unfortunately, email is also one of the slowest forms of communication (other than U.S. mail) so it can be a little frustrating just trying to set up an appointment. Email is also viewed (at least by younger providers and many professionals) as being an outdated technology that is going the way of the dinosaurs. But sometimes email is still a useful method of communication.

     3. Text: More progressive providers use text as their primary form of communication. This allows them to respond quickly to clients while also not having to take direct phone calls. Using text can also be helpful when you are coordinating your schedule and even with directions to their site.

  3. Screening Process: Most reputable providers in this industry have some sort of screening process. In fact, you should seriously think long and hard before seeing any individual that does NOT have a valid screening process. This process protects you just as much as it does them. This screening process is designed primarily to protect the individual from certain situations such as:

     1. Abusive Or Disrespectful Clients: As I mentioned previously, not all clients are respectful and professional. In fact, some are actually abusive to providers, may threaten providers or do things that just make the provider very uncomfortable. What these abusive clients don’t realize is that most reputable providers use third-party services to do background or reference checks on any prospective clients. In addition, providers also report any clients to these same services who turn out to be abusive or disrespectful.

     2. Clients Who Don’t Pay: The fees charged for a particular service are normally quite clear and presented to the client in advance. However, you might be surprised how many clients try to play games with providers over these fees or just not pay them at all. This is really just another way of being abusive or disrespectful to the provider. Providers are allocating their time to the client and providing a valuable service. As such, they should be paid their designated fee (and usually a tip if they provided a truly quality service). As a result, clients who refuse or try to get out of paying these fees are reported to the same third-party services mentioned above.

     3. Clients With Fake Or No Identities: Because of the nature of this business, many clients are reluctant to provide certain forms of identification. However, from the provider’s viewpoint they would be taking a huge risk by seeing anyone who won’t identify themselves in any way or prove that they are a real and reputable person. This is why most reputable providers will simply turn away any person who won’t provide this information as part of the screening process. So, as a client, you should seriously think twice before seeing a Provider that DOESN’T ask for this type of information. If you simply refuse to provide this information, then you’re only real option is to use a walk-in massage parlor that doesn’t require this information or take a chance with some provider that let’s total strangers walk through their door. Either way, you are putting yourself in a very risky situation and you really have no idea what you might be walking into. In addition, from a Provider’s perspective the worse situation is when someone provides them with fake forms of identity. This tells you right away that this person can’t be trusted and is probably a fraudster. So, these people are also reported to the third-party services mentioned above.

     4. Law Enforcement: The last thing that a provider wants or needs is to be dealing with some form of law enforcement. While there are valid reasons why laws should exist in this industry (primarily going after those involved in human trafficking or managing prostitution on public streets) most providers truly believe they are providing a valuable service to their clients and they should be able to be paid for that. As we’ve discussed in our other article (Are Sensual Massages Legal?), there are many valid reasons why these laws should not pertain to ALL providers in this industry. Nevertheless, this is still an issue that ALL providers in this industry must take into consideration. So, if someone is known (or suspected) to be part of law enforcement then Providers need to know this before scheduling appointments.

• When You Set Your Appointment: Once you have contacted the provider, completed their screening process (if there was one) and are ready to schedule an appointment – how the provider communicates with you regarding your appointment will also tell you something about who you are dealing with. Once you are scheduled there are certain pieces of information that should be very clearly communicated including:

  1. Directions: Since most Sensual Massage providers do not work out of retail locations, there are often specific instructions you need (beyond just an address) in order to get to their venue. Make sure these instructions are clear, simple to follow and very specific. If you end up being 15 – 30 minutes late to your appointment because their instructions weren’t clear then most providers will still charge you for that time (since they have allocated time out of their schedule and were sitting there waiting for you to arrive).

  2. Who Your Provider Will Be: Many Sensual Massage providers actually work out of a place where there are multiple providers available. So, you should be very clear on who you will actually be seeing. You should be able to see photos of the masseuse you will be seeing before you ever schedule. If you truly are wanting a good massage then you might need to know if there is someone who is a licensed massage therapist (or at least knows how to give a real massage). You should also be able to specify whether you want a male or female masseuse. This is one of the biggest down sides of using a walk-in massage parlor. Because normally you won’t know who you are seeing until you walk into the location or, in some cases, the actual room. That can be a very scary proposition.

  3. Fee For The Session: The fee for your massage should be clearly communicated to you in advance. Many providers offer several different types of massage (including regular massage, full body massage, erotic massage, happy ending massage, male massages, female massages). They also offer different options during the massage (which may differ depending on whether you are a male or female). They also offer different amounts of time allocated for the massage. As a result, it would be very easy to walk into a session thinking you are going to pay one fee when it fact you end up paying a very different fee. This is an area of communication where there should be NO surprises.

• At The Beginning Of Your Session: Most sessions are initially scheduled for at least one 60 minutes. This is because it is quite difficult to do anything other than a “happy ending” in 30 minutes or less. So, if all you are looking for is a happy ending then you might be better off just visiting a local, sleazy walk-in massage therapist who is known for giving happy endings. But if you are looking for a true erotic massage where you can explore different parts of your sexuality and have the freedom to experience different forms of pleasure then you will certainly need at least an hour to explore some of these fantasies.

  This is why it is very important for your provider to allocate some time at the beginning to clearly communicate with you about what should and should not be included during your time together. For example, if you truly do want to start off with a good full body massage then this is important for your provider to know. If you want more of an erotic massage and to have the ability to explore things related to your fantasies and desires then you should communicate that to your provider. If you are a husband and wife then you need to communicate if you want to actually have sex and/or achieve an orgasm and whether you want to do that with a male or female. In this case, you should also discuss how you think that will affect your relationship with each other.

• During The Session: One of the primary benefits of having the discussions mentioned above is that it helps you relax and create an environment where you can be more receptive to the adventure that lies ahead. Now that you’ve decided what you want included and not included, your provider can focus on the specific techniques to help you enjoy more pleasure during the allotted time. For instance, perhaps you are a woman and you’ve already discussed with your provider how your husband usually just wants to have sex and never really takes enough time to get you warmed up enough to actually achieve an orgasm. This information is very helpful for the provider. Now the provider knows that they need to spend a bit more time using slow massage strokes all over your body, perhaps caress your head and neck and then slowly work their way down to gently tease your nipples. For women, the value of this approach cannot be underestimated. Then once your provider sees that you have passed the “warming up” point and your body begins to show the sign that you are ready for more… only then are you ready for a cock (or something similar) to be introduced into the experience.

• At The End Of Your Session: Once your time with the provider is completed, it is also very important for your provider to spend just a few minutes in a brief review of what happened during the session. Perhaps they ask how you they liked the massage or did you like the way they touched your body or did you learn something about sex that you didn’t know before this experience.

• After You Leave: Any true professional always wants candid feedback that can be provided by the client that perhaps they didn’t share in person. This could be positive feedback that they didn’t share because they were so overwhelmed “in the moment” or it could be constructive negative feedback about how the experience could have been improved. Either way, there are benefits both for you and the provider in sharing this information. For truly professional providers you will often see these types of reviews posted on their web site.